An empath is a person with the paranormal ability to apprehend the mental or emotional state of another individual, or simply to be understanding.
In native teaching, empathy is the highest form of the earth element. Without it, we would not know how others feel, causing separation in our life together as a whole.
Being empathic can be tricky. Over the last 20 years I have learned as an empath to hone in on accepting, understanding and using my empathy as a tool. In the past, I felt I was drowning, not really understanding what was happening to me.
For me, the first step was to create awareness of what other’s feel from my own experience. I would never presume to know how it feels to them, only how it would feel to me. That became the beginning of a new way to understand. Mastering empathy is an intellectual understanding of how emotions function and the purpose they serve.
In learning about empathy through my own and other’s point of view, I became more powerful in using it as a tool, rather than it using me.
Working as a holistic healer, the most important lesson I’ve learned is to break the pattern of carrying around other people’s stuff. I’ve learned to let go of what isn’t mine. When I can’t get someone out of my mind or I feel ill after being with someone, that is my cue to command it to go away, as it does not belong to me.
Anger guides my boundaries. It keeps me authentic and tells me when I have gone against myself or another. Healthy fear is intuition. If it doesn’t feel right, it isn’t.
Being sensitive, I trust that what other’s feel is not anything I caused. I never want to rob someone of something that is important for them to learn – that is part of empowerment.
I use my compassion to surround those who suffer. I know pain is personal and powerful. There are fine lines an empath walks, yet I know I must first take care of myself or will be unable to serve others. You oversee your life and your gifts. Trusting your intuition and believing and knowing what is right for you is healthful living.
May 2018 Tramonto Connects